Genre: Non Fiction
Read: April 2017
Adjectives To Describe This Book: A must read, feminism 101, common sense
Read If You Are: a human being.
Having followed Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie talks on feminism for a while, I think I finally understand why I look up to it so much. It isn’t that she a revolutionary feminist. She just has the ability to say things that make sense in the most simple and digestible way.
This book, fashioned as a letter she once wrote to a friend who just gave birth to a baby girl, is a ‘feminist manifesto’ that details 15 suggestions that would help this friend to raise a feminist. From gender stereotypes to making sure the kid reads to ensure broadmindedness, all the 15 suggestions spoke to me personally.
A super quick read (and an easy one), this is a book I would recommend to everyone. Be it a to-be parent (mother & father) or just anyone wanting to understand or remind themselves what it like to ‘be’ a feminist.
“Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not “if only.” Not “as long as.” I matter equally. Full stop.”
“Teach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women.”
“Never apologize for working. You love what you do, and loving what you do is a great gift to give your child.”
“Everybody will have an opinion about what you should do, but what matters is what you want for yourself, and not what others want you to want.”
“Because you are a girl’ is never reason for anything. Ever.”
“The knowledge of cooking does not come pre-installed in a vagina. Cooking is learned.”
“If we don’t place the straitjacket of gender roles on young children, we give them space to reach their full potential.”
“Men who, when discussing rape, will always say something like ‘if it were my daughter or wife or sister’. Yet such men do not need to imagine a male victim of a crime as a brother or son in order to feel empathy.”
“Why does a woman have to be successful at work in order to justify her keeping her name?”
“Her job is to be her full self, a self that is honest and aware of equal humanity of other people.”
“Her standards are for her alone, and not for other people.”